What are you serious about?What are you really committed to?
Two years ago, my answer to that question was: "I am committed to living a life of spiritual integrity." Then I saw an episode of Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee and Jerry Seinfeld asked his guest (who was a comedic actor), if he had ever wanted to be a stand-up comedian. The guest replied... I thought I did, but then I went down to the clubs and saw the guys doing sets until 3am, getting a few hours sleep, spending the day polishing their act just to do it all over again that night. And I thought, 'Oh, so that's what it looks like to really want to be a stand-up comedian.'
That bit stuck with me because the hard truth was, I intended to live a life of spiritual integrity, but I wasn't nearly as serious about it as a stand-up comedian. In fact, when I asked myself, "What would it really look like to be serious about spiritual integrity?", I saw something very different than what I had been doing. And what was worse was that I realized I had been blaming my HSP/ empath issues for keeping me from meeting my commitment.
See if any of this sounds familiar... How can I keep positive thoughts when my husband always has the news on in the background? I'm too drained to meditate tonight. How can I stay focused on the Light when I'm surrounded by all this darkness? If I meet one more energy vampire today, I'm going to bite them back. I'm feeling so bad about myself...I wonder if Mercury is in retrograde?
From the day you are born, you participate in every moment of your life.
I heard His Holiness the Dalai Lama say that at a conference in 2011 and while it initially made me angry (having been a victim of stuff since childhood), I quickly understood how empowering that statement is because by conceding that I was a Participant in every moment of my life, I could finally take back control.
I know as HSP/empaths, it often feels like the world is happening TO us. We forget that we aren't a feather in the wind or a puppet on someone else's strings. Even the Dalai Lama's wisdom had slipped away from me as I dawdled through my life of not-so-much spiritual integrity. But I learned (and still am learning) some steps that are helping me meet my commitment. No matter what you want to get (more) serious about, I think you'll find a few nuggets here to help you, too.
Call upon Source for help before you need it. Don't wait until you're in a compromised position before asking for Divine support.
Don't take everything on at once. Focus on one part of your commitment at a time.
Don't focus on the next part until the first part has become a habit (usually 18 to 60 days).
When you mess up, rise up. Instead of beating yourself up (which lowers your confidence, esteem and vibration), do something right away that elevates you, even if it has nothing to do with your commitment. (This is actually a step in my commitment to spiritual integrity and it is so POWERFUL.)
Do things that will support your health so you can stay strong and focus your energy on your commitment (ie. get better sleep, nutrition, exercise).
Meditate as if you have already met your commitment. In other words, use your imagination and put your body in the vibration of already having achieved your goal.
View the commitment as a relationship. Write vows, wear a ring, or do something symbolic of the commitment you are making to yourself and God.
Jeannette is the author of the novel "Diary of a Teenage Empath" and two HSP/Empath workbooks for children & teens. She is an Integrative Health Coach who, with her mentor Dr. Wendy Nickerson, launched the first-ever accredited HSP training program for mental health professionals. She leads an HSP community group in Halifax.
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